When a woman does not overthink in bed. Spectatoring is essentially the opposite of being "in the moment" during sex. You are so busy analyzing the situation and judging yourself that you can't fully enjoy the sexual experience—instead, sex becomes a spectator sport. Often, spectatoring can cause anxiety or even sexual dysfunction. But at the very least, it's a libido killer; research shows that women who engage in spectator sex are less satisfied, have fewer real orgasms, and have more fake more orgasms. -() Let’s call them Jay and Anne dahil yun n rin ang pangalan na ibinigay sa kanila sa (&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf). They are very well defined sa post ni Kraven. Si Jay, if I am going to describe him, sya yung sa mata nya si Anne ang pinakamagandang babae sa balat ng lupa. I can always hear him praising and comforting Anne sa buong session. Si Anne nmn, naku lahat ng nakakalibog makikita mo sa kanya: she has the smile of Marianne Rivera, tantalizing eyes, curvy in the right places, perky boobs, parang eraser yung nipples, bilugan ang pwet, halatang maalaga sa katawan, (dont get me started on how perfect her pussy is) at napakaraming stamina. Wala ka nang hahanapin pa ika nga. Ang pinakahumanga tlga ako kay Anne ay yung kaya nyang dalhin ung sitwasyon sa harap nya na walang toll sa body nya. Sa Psych Class ko dati, we call it repression. Ramdam ko sa katawan nya na she dont know what to expect, but she is really thrilled and excited to experience the yoni. Naku kung mararamdaman nyo lang yung naexperience ko while touching her, her heart beats faster with the excitement pero the calmness in her body is really fascinating. I had never experience sa mga couple na nameet ko yung ganung mindfulness, it’s a real beauty to witness in person. Sa gaya kong nagpapa-reach ng ultimate pleasure experience ng babae, ang pinakakalaban ko at ang overthinking nila while massaging them. Sa pinakarelax state ng katawan nila kayang-kaya nilang maattain ang ultimate orgasm nila, even squirting and lahat ng cocktails of hormones will fill their minds. I already discussed in this (&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf ) some of the techniques I used para hindi mag-overthink si girl in bed. Idagdag ko pa itong ilan sa mga iniapply ko while with Anne and Jay: 1. Battle body image issue by genuinely praising her. Anne, having born two kids, nararamdaman ko na she can be conscious about her body. Enter Jay’s genuine affectionate praises to her wife’s body (even loudly saying to me na “ang ganda ng katawan ng asawa ko d b”, and not in a bragging way, I experienced na before ung may husband na niyayabang sa akin ang katawan ng asawa nya, but with Jay ramdam ko na totoong-totoo ung pagka-proud nya kay Anne). Key point, loudly, ipakita natin ang suporta sa babae by being vocal about it. Hindi nya binibiro or binobola yung asawa nya, totoo ung pag-puri nya kay Anne. At grabe ang effect nun sa katawan ni Anne, his voice is like a calm wind sa katawan ni Anne while I am massaging her, assuring her that he will never leave her no matter what. 2. Always confirm na walang mali sa performance ng babae in bed. Actually after the session, Anne and Jay also wanted me to release after all the cum and squirting that Anne experienced with my hands. We did missionary, woman on top and ung dinodoggy sya ni Jay habang bini-bj ako ni Anne (sobrang sexy nung nakita ko sa side mirror). Sobrang daming stamina ni Anne at isa sya sa pinakamagaling mag-WOT na nakilala ko, but I missed my chance to release. Kung yung dating ako, seconds lng itatagal ko sa pag-grind ni Anne. If you follow some of my posts may mga tips ako kaya tumatagal ako ng upto 5 hours na walang putukan, pero ayun nga minsan pag napasobra ang control ko, nagiging pang-pornstar techniques na sya. I affirmed immediately na dahil naubos ko na ung stamina ni Anne sa on top, we can stop kahit hindi pa ako nakakarelease. It is never about her, may mga disciplines lang tlga ako na help me last longer. The yoni is actually designed na kahit walang gawing anything yung babae in return, pero Anne is also a giver in bed. Grabe rin pinagpawisan si Anne while on top of me, kaya sobra ko rin tlga hinangaan yung stamina nya. At yung BJ nya, humihila ng kaluluwa, mga dre. Napa-fist bump p nga ata ako kay Jay dahil sa sarap ng pag-suck ni Anne. 3. Change the place. Naikwento ko sa knila na sa mga lalaki kasi every place can be a sex place (nakakita ng balcony for sure pwede dito sex, sa likod ng car, sa parking, kahit pa sa beach or gitna ng palayan). Sa babae, ibang-iba. They need to establish in their mind first that a place is a safe place for sex (exception ung may mga kinks s public sex syempre). For example, kapag ang room nyo sa bahay ay normal na dun ang workplace ng babae (work from home set-up), during sexy time the woman’s mind will not be aroused easily kc in her mind it sees the place as a work place and not a sex place. Kaya I often suggest to couple to rent an Airbnb or kahit hotel/motel pra hindi ma-associate ng mind ung babae as workplace ung lugar. Same concept din sa mga gustong magkaanak at mabuntis, book a place that is new sa mata nung babae. 4. Avoid if not eliminate distractions. Booking a hotel eliminates the distractions na baka pumasok sa kwarto nila yung mga anak nila, at ayun na malaya siya mag-squirt all her want na hindi nya kailangang mahiya sa akin, and that the bed is suitable nmn to cater all her squirts (they had videos of her squirting and pics of the bed soaking wet). Affirm din na kahit sumigaw sya sa moans, malaki ang chance that other rooms are also doing the same, mas expressive lang sya sa sarap na nararamdaman nya. 5. Shrug off awkwardness by asking questions. The woman is the center of all the pleasure sa yoni massage so her feedback is important kung saan sya nasasarapan at anong gusto nyang mangyari (consent lagi). Wag nmn itanong lahat, read body language in bed ng babae rin (or idiscuss ko na lang din sa ibang posts yung common body language ng babae in bed). This recorded by Jay while I am doing the yoni massage.