When a woman does not overthink in bed.
Spectatoring is essentially the opposite of being "in the moment" during sex. You are so busy analyzing the situation and judging yourself that you can't fully enjoy the sexual experience—instead, sex becomes a spectator sport. Often, spectatoring can cause anxiety or even sexual dysfunction. But at the very least, it's a libido killer; research shows that women who engage in spectator sex are less satisfied, have fewer real orgasms, and have more fake more orgasms. -(https://www.instyle.com/news/what-is-spectatoring-during-sex-how-to-stop)
Let’s call them Jay and Anne dahil yun n rin ang pangalan na ibinigay sa kanila sa (https://www.reddit.com/r/alasjuicy/comments/w921k2/the_almost_foursome_part_04/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf). They are very well defined sa post ni Kraven. Si Jay, if I am going to describe him, sya yung sa mata nya si Anne ang pinakamagandang babae sa balat ng lupa. I can always hear him praising and comforting Anne sa buong session. Si Anne nmn, naku lahat ng nakakalibog makikita mo sa kanya: she has the smile of Marianne Rivera, tantalizing eyes, curvy in the right places, perky boobs, parang eraser yung nipples, bilugan ang pwet, halatang maalaga sa katawan, (dont get me started on how perfect her pussy is) at napakaraming stamina. Wala ka nang hahanapin pa ika nga.
Ang pinakahumanga tlga ako kay Anne ay yung kaya nyang dalhin ung sitwasyon sa harap nya na walang toll sa body nya. Sa Psych Class ko dati, we call it repression. Ramdam ko sa katawan nya na she dont know what to expect, but she is really thrilled and excited to experience the yoni. Naku kung mararamdaman nyo lang yung naexperience ko while touching her, her heart beats faster with the excitement pero the calmness in her body is really fascinating. I had never experience sa mga couple na nameet ko yung ganung mindfulness, it’s a real beauty to witness in person.
Sa gaya kong nagpapa-reach ng ultimate pleasure experience ng babae, ang pinakakalaban ko at ang overthinking nila while massaging them. Sa pinakarelax state ng katawan nila kayang-kaya nilang maattain ang ultimate orgasm nila, even squirting and lahat ng cocktails of hormones will fill their minds. I already discussed in this (https://www.reddit.com/r/alasjuicy/comments/vsg8vz/when_a_woman_overthinks_in_bed_juicy_audio/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf ) some of the techniques I used para hindi mag-overthink si girl in bed. Idagdag ko pa itong ilan sa mga iniapply ko while with Anne and Jay:
1. Battle body image issue by genuinely praising her. Anne, having born two kids, nararamdaman ko na she can be conscious about her body. Enter Jay’s genuine affectionate praises to her wife’s body (even loudly saying to me na “ang ganda ng katawan ng asawa ko d b”, and not in a bragging way, I experienced na before ung may husband na niyayabang sa akin ang katawan ng asawa nya, but with Jay ramdam ko na totoong-totoo ung pagka-proud nya kay Anne). Key point, loudly, ipakita natin ang suporta sa babae by being vocal about it. Hindi nya binibiro or binobola yung asawa nya, totoo ung pag-puri nya kay Anne. At grabe ang effect nun sa katawan ni Anne, his voice is like a calm wind sa katawan ni Anne while I am massaging her, assuring her that he will never leave her no matter what.
2. Always confirm na walang mali sa performance ng babae in bed. Actually after the session, Anne and Jay also wanted me to release after all the cum and squirting that Anne experienced with my hands. We did missionary, woman on top and ung dinodoggy sya ni Jay habang bini-bj ako ni Anne (sobrang sexy nung nakita ko sa side mirror). Sobrang daming stamina ni Anne at isa sya sa pinakamagaling mag-WOT na nakilala ko, but I missed my chance to release. Kung yung dating ako, seconds lng itatagal ko sa pag-grind ni Anne. If you follow some of my posts may mga tips ako kaya tumatagal ako ng upto 5 hours na walang putukan, pero ayun nga minsan pag napasobra ang control ko, nagiging pang-pornstar techniques na sya. I affirmed immediately na dahil naubos ko na ung stamina ni Anne sa on top, we can stop kahit hindi pa ako nakakarelease. It is never about her, may mga disciplines lang tlga ako na help me last longer. The yoni is actually designed na kahit walang gawing anything yung babae in return, pero Anne is also a giver in bed. Grabe rin pinagpawisan si Anne while on top of me, kaya sobra ko rin tlga hinangaan yung stamina nya. At yung BJ nya, humihila ng kaluluwa, mga dre. Napa-fist bump p nga ata ako kay Jay dahil sa sarap ng pag-suck ni Anne.
3. Change the place. Naikwento ko sa knila na sa mga lalaki kasi every place can be a sex place (nakakita ng balcony for sure pwede dito sex, sa likod ng car, sa parking, kahit pa sa beach or gitna ng palayan). Sa babae, ibang-iba. They need to establish in their mind first that a place is a safe place for sex (exception ung may mga kinks s public sex syempre). For example, kapag ang room nyo sa bahay ay normal na dun ang workplace ng babae (work from home set-up), during sexy time the woman’s mind will not be aroused easily kc in her mind it sees the place as a work place and not a sex place. Kaya I often suggest to couple to rent an Airbnb or kahit hotel/motel pra hindi ma-associate ng mind ung babae as workplace ung lugar. Same concept din sa mga gustong magkaanak at mabuntis, book a place that is new sa mata nung babae.
4. Avoid if not eliminate distractions. Booking a hotel eliminates the distractions na baka pumasok sa kwarto nila yung mga anak nila, at ayun na malaya siya mag-squirt all her want na hindi nya kailangang mahiya sa akin, and that the bed is suitable nmn to cater all her squirts (they had videos of her squirting and pics of the bed soaking wet). Affirm din na kahit sumigaw sya sa moans, malaki ang chance that other rooms are also doing the same, mas expressive lang sya sa sarap na nararamdaman nya.
5. Shrug off awkwardness by asking questions. The woman is the center of all the pleasure sa yoni massage so her feedback is important kung saan sya nasasarapan at anong gusto nyang mangyari (consent lagi). Wag nmn itanong lahat, read body language in bed ng babae rin (or idiscuss ko na lang din sa ibang posts yung common body language ng babae in bed).
This recorded by Jay while I am doing the yoni massage.
Spectatoring is essentially the opposite of being "in the moment" during sex. You are so busy analyzing the situation and judging yourself that you can't fully enjoy the sexual experience—instead, sex becomes a spectator sport. Often, spectatoring can cause anxiety or even sexual dysfunction. But at the very least, it's a libido killer; research shows that women who engage in spectator sex are less satisfied, have fewer real orgasms, and have more fake more orgasms. -(https://www.instyle.com/news/what-is-spectatoring-during-sex-how-to-stop)
Let’s call them Jay and Anne dahil yun n rin ang pangalan na ibinigay sa kanila sa (https://www.reddit.com/r/alasjuicy/comments/w921k2/the_almost_foursome_part_04/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf). They are very well defined sa post ni Kraven. Si Jay, if I am going to describe him, sya yung sa mata nya si Anne ang pinakamagandang babae sa balat ng lupa. I can always hear him praising and comforting Anne sa buong session. Si Anne nmn, naku lahat ng nakakalibog makikita mo sa kanya: she has the smile of Marianne Rivera, tantalizing eyes, curvy in the right places, perky boobs, parang eraser yung nipples, bilugan ang pwet, halatang maalaga sa katawan, (dont get me started on how perfect her pussy is) at napakaraming stamina. Wala ka nang hahanapin pa ika nga.
Ang pinakahumanga tlga ako kay Anne ay yung kaya nyang dalhin ung sitwasyon sa harap nya na walang toll sa body nya. Sa Psych Class ko dati, we call it repression. Ramdam ko sa katawan nya na she dont know what to expect, but she is really thrilled and excited to experience the yoni. Naku kung mararamdaman nyo lang yung naexperience ko while touching her, her heart beats faster with the excitement pero the calmness in her body is really fascinating. I had never experience sa mga couple na nameet ko yung ganung mindfulness, it’s a real beauty to witness in person.
Sa gaya kong nagpapa-reach ng ultimate pleasure experience ng babae, ang pinakakalaban ko at ang overthinking nila while massaging them. Sa pinakarelax state ng katawan nila kayang-kaya nilang maattain ang ultimate orgasm nila, even squirting and lahat ng cocktails of hormones will fill their minds. I already discussed in this (https://www.reddit.com/r/alasjuicy/comments/vsg8vz/when_a_woman_overthinks_in_bed_juicy_audio/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf ) some of the techniques I used para hindi mag-overthink si girl in bed. Idagdag ko pa itong ilan sa mga iniapply ko while with Anne and Jay:
1. Battle body image issue by genuinely praising her. Anne, having born two kids, nararamdaman ko na she can be conscious about her body. Enter Jay’s genuine affectionate praises to her wife’s body (even loudly saying to me na “ang ganda ng katawan ng asawa ko d b”, and not in a bragging way, I experienced na before ung may husband na niyayabang sa akin ang katawan ng asawa nya, but with Jay ramdam ko na totoong-totoo ung pagka-proud nya kay Anne). Key point, loudly, ipakita natin ang suporta sa babae by being vocal about it. Hindi nya binibiro or binobola yung asawa nya, totoo ung pag-puri nya kay Anne. At grabe ang effect nun sa katawan ni Anne, his voice is like a calm wind sa katawan ni Anne while I am massaging her, assuring her that he will never leave her no matter what.
2. Always confirm na walang mali sa performance ng babae in bed. Actually after the session, Anne and Jay also wanted me to release after all the cum and squirting that Anne experienced with my hands. We did missionary, woman on top and ung dinodoggy sya ni Jay habang bini-bj ako ni Anne (sobrang sexy nung nakita ko sa side mirror). Sobrang daming stamina ni Anne at isa sya sa pinakamagaling mag-WOT na nakilala ko, but I missed my chance to release. Kung yung dating ako, seconds lng itatagal ko sa pag-grind ni Anne. If you follow some of my posts may mga tips ako kaya tumatagal ako ng upto 5 hours na walang putukan, pero ayun nga minsan pag napasobra ang control ko, nagiging pang-pornstar techniques na sya. I affirmed immediately na dahil naubos ko na ung stamina ni Anne sa on top, we can stop kahit hindi pa ako nakakarelease. It is never about her, may mga disciplines lang tlga ako na help me last longer. The yoni is actually designed na kahit walang gawing anything yung babae in return, pero Anne is also a giver in bed. Grabe rin pinagpawisan si Anne while on top of me, kaya sobra ko rin tlga hinangaan yung stamina nya. At yung BJ nya, humihila ng kaluluwa, mga dre. Napa-fist bump p nga ata ako kay Jay dahil sa sarap ng pag-suck ni Anne.
3. Change the place. Naikwento ko sa knila na sa mga lalaki kasi every place can be a sex place (nakakita ng balcony for sure pwede dito sex, sa likod ng car, sa parking, kahit pa sa beach or gitna ng palayan). Sa babae, ibang-iba. They need to establish in their mind first that a place is a safe place for sex (exception ung may mga kinks s public sex syempre). For example, kapag ang room nyo sa bahay ay normal na dun ang workplace ng babae (work from home set-up), during sexy time the woman’s mind will not be aroused easily kc in her mind it sees the place as a work place and not a sex place. Kaya I often suggest to couple to rent an Airbnb or kahit hotel/motel pra hindi ma-associate ng mind ung babae as workplace ung lugar. Same concept din sa mga gustong magkaanak at mabuntis, book a place that is new sa mata nung babae.
4. Avoid if not eliminate distractions. Booking a hotel eliminates the distractions na baka pumasok sa kwarto nila yung mga anak nila, at ayun na malaya siya mag-squirt all her want na hindi nya kailangang mahiya sa akin, and that the bed is suitable nmn to cater all her squirts (they had videos of her squirting and pics of the bed soaking wet). Affirm din na kahit sumigaw sya sa moans, malaki ang chance that other rooms are also doing the same, mas expressive lang sya sa sarap na nararamdaman nya.
5. Shrug off awkwardness by asking questions. The woman is the center of all the pleasure sa yoni massage so her feedback is important kung saan sya nasasarapan at anong gusto nyang mangyari (consent lagi). Wag nmn itanong lahat, read body language in bed ng babae rin (or idiscuss ko na lang din sa ibang posts yung common body language ng babae in bed).
This recorded by Jay while I am doing the yoni massage.
The Lady from Luzon part 2, (juicy audio + tips about overstimulations and hyperventilations during your sexual activities)
Last July we met asking if she could experience the 100% of the yoni massage techniques that I do.
(In the first session](https://www.reddit.com/r/alasjuicy/comments/uyhobh/shes_so_fung_wet_super_juicy_audio/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf), I had to stop stimulating her at around 40% because her body is reacting differently with the sensations. Her face and hands got numb with all the orgasms and pleasurable stimulations.
This tingly feeling can sometimes be misinterpreted as going numb, but it's really hypersensitivity. Dr. Whelihan compared that hypersensitivity to the way your clit, or the head of a penis, might feel right after orgasm — even a light touch can be too much to handle (kahit tayong mga lalaki nakakarelate sa kanilang nararamdaman). You need time to chill out a bit. Sometimes your hands or feet can feel this same hypersensitivity, which Whelihan attributed to the neurochemicals involved in arousal. -(https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/news/a52544/is-numbness-during-sex-normal/)
Hear her moans as she experience the peak of her pleasure.
Warning for ladies, specially for virgins who will experience sex for the first time (I might also create a post on how to handle virgins soon):
If hindi marunong yung sexual partner mag-gauge ng necessary stimulations na kailangan mo lang for *that moment*, your body can go overdrive (overwhelmed or overstimulation can go sideways abruptly). At kung may case pa ng ADD or ADHD, hyperventilation can also happen.
During sexual activity, (https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0306987703000100), or even have a fever-like feeling(same reaction sa first time ma-sting ng bee, first time matinik ng sea urchin or yung first vaccination natin). Please guys, always check the breathing and heartbeat nung babae, hindi yan robot. Minsan na-ooverwhelmed yung katawan ng babae pag sobra-sobra din at bigla yung mga sensations.
Overstimulations can really happen, lalo na sa clitoris. Clit stimulation is very pleasurable, but it also has a limit and can swell really bad. The lady may not able to feel the pain right away (alam nyo na kasi na during vaginal orgasm, the pain threshold ng babae can reach up to 80% -(https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/0304395985901642)), but it can hurt like hell the next day. So be careful. At pag dating sa vaginal penetration, I prefer muna my fingers over toys, just to be familiar with the vaginal walls and cervix. If masundot ng toys yung cervix nila (some have a very sensitive cervix btw, iba pa yung may cases ng cervicitis) then dumugo, sagot mo na rin pampacheck-up ni ate gurl. Kapag nasagi yung nodes of tensions sa vaginal wall and the guy doesn’t know how to release them, it can also cause bleeding and unnecessary pain. So be very careful (remember, the most sensitive body parts of the lady is involved).
Have I experienced women hyperventilating while in bed? Yes, mga six times na rin. How to handle them? Una be calm, kapag nagpanic ka rin, it can even trigger anxiety attack sa babae. Start with breathing in and out for a solid 5 minutes. No caffeinated drinks, it may become worst. I even sing one time just to lighten up the mood. Always check their breathing and water (dapat yung lips sa taas at lips sa baba ay hindi dry). Fresh air and ayun nga, tanong mo kung may ADHD, ADD or kahit ashtma attack (lalo na usually parang closed box ang designs ng mga motels/ hotels).
Mahaba na pala ito, next time ulit sa mga tips.
Sploosh.
Yes friends, squirting is real, and it's not pee, or at least, not entirely.
Female ejaculation (although it’s been around since the beginning of time) is one of those things that’s still considered mysterious and is hotly debated.
— (https://www.abc.net.au/triplej/programs/the-hook-up/squirting-sex-pee-pleasure-guide/12519364)
She is the gal from (https://www.reddit.com/r/alasjuicy/comments/uyhobh/shes_so_fung_wet_super_juicy_audio/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf)
She asked me if the numbness she experienced from the last session will still be the same. I comforted her that it may not happen anymore. It just happened as the body becomes weird out with the full-body orgasm that she experienced. This is the sole reason I only let woman experience 50% or less of the yoni massage techniques that I practice, so that the stimulation is not too overwhelming for their body to processed.
Based on experience, second or third yoni session is more suitable for experiencing the peak of their pleasure longer and even multiple squirting. This is because they are more relaxed, more comfortable and knowing what they had experienced on the first session brought them to a euphoric bliss, the body becomes more at ease in receiving my touches. Iba ang sabog ng orgasm pag sobrang relax ang state ng babae; the cocktails of oxytocin, dopamine, endorphins and even melatonin makes the experience insanely euphoric and even high as a kite (this has been confirmed by multiple girls in multiple sessions).
We set a date to meet and during the session, we confirmed that her body is not tensed anymore and suitable for more intense orgasms. By the way, study shows that during sex or when aroused, females can increase of up to 40% in pain tolerance ((https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2677686/)).
She experienced multiple times of orgasms and multiple times of squirting. Hear (her moans here), and check if you can catch her Manila accent even while having her orgasms.
Well I saw this script by u/Eighthspan on GWA and loved it. SO of course I had to go ahead and make it!
In it, you start off tied up on a table in my laboratory... not much more to me then any other animal I would experiment on...
But as things progress, and I start feeding off of your life revitalizing semen... well. Let's just say I start to look at you- and use you- a little bit differently.
When a woman is not sure what orgasm feels like, it is highly probable that she hadn’t experienced it yet. Orgasm is a very unique experience for a woman, and they also experience it differently. Some people make noises during an orgasm, while others are silent. Some flush or sweat after an orgasm, but others do not. -(https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/female-orgasm)
Yoni massage allows you to explore your body in a slow, methodical, and sensual way — without the all-too-common pressure to “perform” for a partner. - (https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/yoni-massage-therapy#benefits)
It’s important to remember there’s a difference between wanting to have sex and being physically aroused. It’s possible to feel physically aroused without wanting to act on that feeling.
Just because someone shows signs of sexual arousal doesn’t mean they want to have sex — nor does it mean they consent to having sex. -(https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/female-arousal)
When your nipples are stimulated, these feel-good vibes also find their way to a key brain structure called the hypothalamus, which among its many important functions regulates the brain chemicals that make us exhilarated, furious, horny, or happy. Stimulation of the nipples causes the hypothalamus to release oxytocin—a potent neurohormone that can enhance feelings of bonding and helps trigger the pleasurable contractions experienced during orgasm itself. - (https://www.google.com/search?q=nipplegasm&ie=utf-8&oe=utf-8&client=firefox-b-m)
The shape/look of your vagina can differ! Girls, do not think it is an abnormal thing. It’s absolutely normal to have different types of vaginas in terms of shape, size, and color. - (https://www.hhphilippines.com/blog/posts/self-exam-do-you-really-know-about-your-lady-parts?gclid=Cj0KCQiA3-yQBhD3ARIsAHuHT66exlAEGKHzENqcU8uGwVkoCjnJXUU1p5yZjV2D-SmGtOHcLZ31u_gaAsWEEALw_wcB)
Studies have found that heterosexual women are the demographic having the least orgasms during sex and it could be down to a lack of understanding when it comes to female anatomy and the vulva - (https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.forbes.com/sites/alicebroster/2020/07/31/what-is-the-orgasm-gap/amp/)
I hold myself responsible for opening more curiosity about the art of yoni massage because of my posts. But get this, my posts are NOT for everyone TO DO yoni massage. My posts are TO ENCOURAGE everyone TO LEARN about the art of pleasuring women, which eventually includes DOING yoni massage. The same logic that the yoni massage’s intention is to pleasure the woman (through therapeutic, sensual and pleasurable touches), which eventually (may or may not) includes orgasm (and even squirting to some). (https://www.healthshots.com/intimate-health/feminine-hygiene/professional-vaginal-massages-exist-and-theyve-got-nothing-to-do-with-orgasms/amp)
We chatted last year, a day before Christmas. She’s the third virgin na minassage ko, at isa sa mga unang nagtiwala sa akin nung wala pang may alam kung gaano kasarap ang Yoni Massage.
I decided to reach-out na rin yung mga dati kong nameet so that they can see yung difference before at yung ngayon na andami kong bagong techniques nq natutunan (and just in case I stop doing all these stuffs na rin, the possibility is just around the corner lalo na ngayong I am back into dating).
Natutuwa ako kasi kahit nakita ko nang hubad ang katawan nya before, mahiyain parin sya (and yes virgin parin po sya). Sobrang ang dami ko palang ginagawa ngayon na hindi pa nya nararanasan, and yes mas magastos na rin than before. The oils am using alone costs around 950 Php na (yes, doesn’t mean free yung ginagawa ko, I use cheap products. I still know that I am touching the most sensitive part ng mga babae) plus I still bring lubricant (para sa mga sensitive sa oil na babae, and yes there is a way to test if a girl is allergic/ sensitive to the massage oil), water, alcohol and sometimes my own air humidifier (mobile spa na nga raw ako).
Anyway, here is her moans. Ang sikip-sikip, I can only delicately use one finger:
Putting two fingers is already painful to her, mabuti na lang she squirted a lot of creamy white fluid flowing out of her bartholini’s gland.
Guys, as person responsible for pleasuring the woman, always be mindful of the ladies hydration. Laging icheck ang dalwa nilang lips. Huwag hayaang matuyo ang labi sa taas, give her water. And definitely, wag hayaang matuyo na ang labi sa baba, use lubricant.
Dehydration can contribute to vaginal dryness (masakit yan pag pinasok), fatigue (“Not tonight, honey.”), headaches (the classics never go out of style!) and irritability (that thing where he tries to initiate and you try to punch him in the face). (https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.sheknows.com/health-and-wellness/articles/1046339/6-cups-of-water-a-day-could-make-sex-way-better/amp/)
She messaged using this question “what’s yoni massage?”. She’s just new in reddit and it is her first time to read about yoni massage.
I answered “Hello, it is a massage that focus on the intimate area of the lady. It includes massage in the butt, thigh, breast, vulva and vagina.”
Rosie Rees, a sexuality coach and founder of Yoni Pleasure Palace, an online retailer offering wellness products such as the glass pleasure wand called The Cervix Serpent, which can be used in a self-lead yoni massage, defines a yoni massage as “a full body tantric massage that includes the buttocks, breasts, vulva, and vagina” with consent from the recipient every step of the way, of course. -(https://www.wellandgood.com/yoni-massage-therapy/)
We set-up a date to meet because she is really interested to learn about it.
She let me wait for 5 hours in our meeting point. I could have leave but she has a great reason to not come on the specified time (and she is really polite too, so I just enjoyed strolling and observing people in Glorietta).
When she arrived, she is this petite charming lady with a very cute Visayan accent. She has this kolehiyala-vibe around her.
We arrived in the room and when she removed her mask, I said to myself “Gwapa gyud”. She has pretty eyes, sweet innocent smile and very light personality.
She also has one of the sexiest moans I ever heard, hear her moans here as she enjoy the yoni massage she had discovered recently.
Orgasm is like two people pushing a brain on a swing..
In this metaphor for neural entrainment, the person (or people) pushing the swing is the rhythmic sexual stimulus and the person on the swing is your brain's response.
(https://www.cbc.ca/radio/quirks/quirks-quarks-for-november-5-2016-1.3836668/want-to-orgasm-new-research-says-it-s-all-in-the-rhythm-1.3836758)
She reached out last July, asking if the yoni massage involves sex. I said I seldom fuck the people I massage because the full-body massage followed by the yoni massage can sometimes take a lot of my energy. Up to date I already had 26 virgin sessions.
She’s curious why I don’t ask any money for doing it and if I am single. I told her if I am not single anymore, I would not do it apparently. The plan is if I found my future SO, all my skills, talents and energy in bed would solely belong to her. I am not doing it for money but for the sake of mastery.
August came, I received a messaged from her that she’s upset and got ditched. I actually felt her frustrations, with all her efforts and time, she got ditched by someone she thought was worthy of her trust. I didn’t tell her, but it was also the same time a lady instructed me to go to her condo and left me waiting for hours outside the coffee shop, only to not update me and left me hanging. Betrayal of trust is kinda traumatic for me.
We meet a week after, she’s on her mid 20s, curvy in the right places, sweet smile and very open on sharing about all her sexual frustrations. I am glad that the yoni massage help her release all those sexual tensions.
This is her moans().
Rhythm plays a major role for orgasm. And if you can hear from her breathing, dynamics and rhythm can even bring a woman to her intense orgasm, even to multiple orgasms.
A common definition of multiple orgasms is that the first orgasm ends and there is an explicit, short period when the person is not having an orgasm. Then, typically due to continued or renewed stimulation, another orgasm happens soon after. There are a number of ways to try to make that happen, including but not limited to tantric sex.
There are two main myths about multiple orgasms: that everyone with a clitoris can have them, and that no one with a penis can have them. Neither are true. Some people with clitorises have a longer-than-average refractory period or simply get too sensitive for continued sexual contact. As a result, they may not experience or desire multiple orgasms. This is completely healthy and normal.
On the other hand, some people with penises, especially people under the age of 30, have short refractory periods and can achieve orgasm multiple times in a matter of minutes. This is also healthy and normal. There is no right or wrong way to have an orgasm as long as everyone involved is able to consent. -(https://www.webmd.com/sex/multiple-orgasms-what-it-means)
Its (Yoni Massage) purpose is centred around healing, self-awareness and honour, and although it can lead to orgasm, that’s never the primary intention. It’s like a very happy accident if it happens but in truth, you’re more likely to cry or laugh, maybe even fart, than experience a full body-shaking O. -(https://zoella.co.uk/2021/08/09/what-is-yoni-mapping-how-do-you-do-it/)
Female ejaculation refers to the expulsion of fluid from a female’s urethra during orgasm or sexual arousal. The urethra is the duct that carries urine from the bladder to the outside of the body.
There are two different types of female ejaculate:
Squirting fluid. This fluid is usually colorless and odorless, and it occurs in large quantities.
Ejaculate fluid. This type more closely resembles male semen. It is typically thick and appears milky.
-(https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/323953)
I met her more than a month ago. Sa chat pa lang she’s very articulate of her experiences, inhibitions. expectations and how she thinks the yoni massage can help her.
She has a lot of questions (from how her OB said she’s very tensed down there, overstimulation, her painful sex experiences and even common female body language in bed) but I like that she kept her excitement, as she added, “I'm excited na rin. I wonder if I'll end up being one of the most tense people you'll ever meet haha. But im sure youll find out something about me even I dont know about myself”
The day we meet, nahiya ako kasi she’s very sophisticated in person (yung tipong maarte movie dahil laking mayaman), pero she’s very down to Earth and napakawelcoming kausap (ako lang pala yung naintimidate kasi kahit the way she speaks is sophisticated din). Innocent eyes, kissable lips and sweet smile. Beauty, brains, body and personality wise, she got it all.
Later that day we jokingly agreed that I should call her the Innocent Seductress because she has a very innocent face but a very seductive body (aminado din sya that her exes cannot get enough of her because of her body; though mejo nainis ako sa mga exes based on her stories, kc ginamit at niloko lang sya). I tend to compliment her a lot because she has body dysmorphia sometimes (yes it exist to some women, and as guys all we can do kapag andun sila sa moment na yun is never say “don’t think that way”, lalo lang sila mag-isip, instead just be there and samahan sila; compliment them dun sa mga bagay na nakakaligtaan nilang iappreciate).
Even her are very seductive.
One of the things she experience with me is yung mag-squirt. Sa first session, she’s very tensed and with a limited time, multiple orgasm lang naparanas ko sa kanya during the yoni massage session.
Sa second session, she became more relaxed and her body is more comfortable with my touch kaya naachieve nmn nya ang multiple squirting.
Sa experience ko, tatlong beses na sobrang mababasa yung pempem at bed during the yoni massage:
Una, kapag na-aroused sila they will release a clear na madulas na fluid (sticky na parang laway pero walang amoy), ito ay galing sa Bartholini’s gland nila para pampadulas sa lagusan ng babae.
Pangalawa, kapag nag-secrete na sila ng milky white fluid (parang lotion ung consistency at walang amoy), ito ay galing sa Skene’s gland nila (ang prostate ng mga babae). Ito yung tinatawag madalas ng mga guys na cum ng babae (pero madalas malayo pa sila sa orgasm nila kahit meron na sila nito)
Pangatlo, squirt na parang ihi. Minsan clear pero madalas humalo na yung milky white (dahil iisa sila ng lalabasan at pinag-ipunan, umaabot sa bladder yung milky white nasubstance at pareho silang lumalabas sa urethra). Wala rin itong amoy.
Baffled parin ang scientific community why squirting happens. Sa experience ko ito ang pinakamalapit na explanation: Ang squirting ay paglabas ng kung anumang liquid ang naipon sa bladder ng babae na inilalabas sa urethra. Madalas liquid from skene’s gland tapos hahaluan ng liquid from your kidney. During contraction of muscles (orgasm or arousal stage pa lng), naabot ang ng sensation ang kidney, ureter and bladder ng babae forcing it to expel ung water in it. Madalas wala pang urea (gives urine smell and color) yung tubig na yun, kaya wala pa syang amoy na mapanghi or kulay.
Minsan nahihiya ang mga babae mag-squirt dahil akala nila ihi ang lalabas sa kanila. Ihi ba sya? Yes and No. Yes, kasi sa labasan ng ihi sya lalabas (urethra), pero No kasi magkaiba sila ng chemical composition ng basta ihi lang (madalas wala syang amoy ihi, hindi kulay yellow at meron pang mga enzymes and proteins na galing sa skene’s and bartholini’s gland).
Kaya I always suggest sa mga minimeet ko to book Airbnb/ Hotel or Motel para they can moan, orgasm and squirt all they want sa bed.
Lahat ba kayang magsquirt? Gaya ng orgasm at multiple-orgasm capability, lahat ng babae may kakayanan, pero hindi lahat nagagamit yung kakayanan na yun, (reason, either lack of knowledge or lack of experience). It takes a lot of comfort and kailangan nasa relax/ receptive state yung body ng babae para mag-squirt. Kapag comfortable na ang babae, kahit 2 minutes kaya sya mapa-squirt (known record).
(https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/female-ejaculation) may help for everything you need to know about female ejaculation.
I had posted about her before. She had trouble having orgasms due to several factors. I admit, she’s one of the challenging pempem I had encountered before and one of my success stories when it comes to full-blown orgasms.
Good thing when I met her I was already mastering the 12 finger techniques for yoni massage, and 4 of those techniques I had found to solve her dilemma.
From my past posts, I haad shared that orgasm may not be happening due to these variables: lack of knowledge or lack of experience. Lack of knowledge is simply saying you are not yet familiar with the sexual map of your pempem hence you don’t know your pleeasure spots yet. Yoni massage can help with that journey of sexual discovery. Lack of experience means your body has no records of experiencing orgasm yet hence its natural fight or flight response is not to jump in hastily even when orgasm is just a tickle away (minsan OA ang body, anything na hind pa nya nararanasan, it will assume na will lead to death, kaya it is important to train your mind to overcome what your body assume as its limits).
Is it possible ba that physical and mental desire don’t align? Yes, very much. Like feel mo mag-orgasm ka pero it is very dry down there?
This very thing has been studied by scientific researchers — the difference between subjective arousal and physical arousal. In fact, it’s been studied so well this whole phenomenon was given a name — arousal nonconcordance.
Arousal nonconcordance is when your cognitive or subjective arousal doesn’t match up with your physical arousal, or vice versa.
-(https://smokymountainnews.com/lifestyle/rumble/item/31868-when-physical-and-mental-arousal-don-t-align)
I am happy that now she can reach ()
They are one of the most amazing couples I met her in reddit. The GF reached out to me asking if she can experience yoni massage too.
I can feel she’s really uptight with all her inquiries (Yes, even from line of questioning I can feel if a woman is too anxious). It is a normal respond of a woman who will experience the yoni massage for the first time to be anxious. With all the questions she had covered, one thing intrigued me: she is the one interested in yoni massage but she is also the one too anxious about it. Usually woman are too anxious if it is the guy’s idea and she just agreed. This is an interesting scene for me.
We meet few days after. All of my expectations were correct. They have different sexual polarity.
Sexual polarity refers to the chemistry, tension, or charge between people with opposite energies: feminine and masculine, yin and yang. This idea is based on the premise that everyone has feminine and masculine energy within them. (You can think of it as having the right and left brain and needing both parts to thrive.)
Most of the time, people have a preference for one of these energies sexually. More polarity there is between you and your partner, meaning more masculine is one of you and more feminine another – more chemistry you’ll experience. People with feminine essence prefer to be ravished, taken (sexually), while those with the masculine one feel at home taking charge and being “the ravisher.”
You can think of Feminine being the ocean while Masculine being the ship. The ocean might be calm and pleasant one moment only to turn rough and stormy the next. But if it’s a good ship, it is steadily going towards its destination regardless. It knows that the ocean is chaotic by nature, and it’s pointless to hold it against it.
Feminine energy is the energy of change, receptivity, chaos, creativity, flow, vibrance. Feminine comes alive by feeling the fullness of life and love.
Masculine energy is goal-oriented, driven; it is the energy that is identified with emptiness, death, consciousness. Masculine loves challenges.
-(https://sfsexcoaching.com/sexual-polarity/)
I already set the expectations to them that I am there to focus on the woman as the center of all the pleasure. But that’s a really hard task if the woman is too anxious about the session.
To handle this kind of situation, my first priority is not to make her overthink which would eventually go to spectatoring. (Spectatoring is essentially the opposite of being "in the moment" during sex. You are so busy analyzing the situation and judging yourself that you can't fully enjoy the sexual experience—instead, sex becomes a spectator sport. Often, spectatoring can cause anxiety or even sexual dysfunction. But at the very least, it's a libido killer; research shows that women who engage in spectator sex are less satisfied, have fewer real orgasms, and have more fake more orgasms. -(https://www.instyle.com/news/what-is-spectatoring-during-sex-how-to-stop))
Tips for the woman not to go on overthinking in bed:
1. I knew that woman’s psyche has no control over their thinking. The more we say don’t do it, they will. First thing she will think is I may record their whole session on camera. My solution: I never go to a room before a woman. They are either in the room already, or we book a place together. Guys, the thought will always wander in their heads, so instead of battling their thoughts prevent it beforehand.
2. I play relaxing music. First reason, to get them relaxed and be in the mood (imagine her lying there with my breathing and her breathing the only things she can hear, that’s a breeding ground for overthinking). Second, how can I record if my phone is playing some music (another reinforcement for point no. 1)
3. Changes in temperature. This should be done carefully. Make it too cold and you will have a longer time to arouse her, make it too hot and her mind will be on overdrive again.
4. I talk to the woman. I seldom do this because it is counterintuitive to make a woman relaxed while you are talking to them. But the talk make the session personal and not transactional. That’s what is necessary for her during that time so that she will become more comfortable with me and my touch.
5. Tell her what you will do next. It is again counterproductive on my part to remove the element of surprise. But there are woman out there who would want to know what would happen first. The key is for them to be comfortable with your words. Like when I say “hindi pa ito ang pinakamasarap na part”, then she will look forward for more. Hindi ko nmn sinasabi buong details, when she’s relaxed and comfortable na, the surprises can be introduced one by one.
6. I let her touch my genitalia to show that it doesn’t affect me when I touch her genitalia. Again, another thought I would occasionally battle is that “minamanyak ko sila”. But them being reminded that I am not turned on while I am doing the massage to them make her assured that I will not jump on her and do crazy stuffs at any given moment, and in turn put their minds at ease.
7. Be patient and go through the whole process with her. The surest way for her to “be in the moment” is to assure that “someone is with her in the moment”. I even invited the BF to be her headside while I massaged her pussy.
This is her moans when the husband kissed her breast and lips, while I massaged her other lips. (The music is not too loud, but the BF placed his phone too close to my phone while recording the moans of her gf).
Finally she attained her very relaxed state, I know she had experienced a lot of her joyous peaks during this state. I just reinforced it that these are the things you can achieve if you are fully relaxed.
